Coping with DENIAL

I Love You Parties do not need to be a surprise to your committed friend. Many times, friends find themselves announcing that one is coming soon when their buddy is nearing the dark side. A common problem that friends face is the expected "shut up guys we're not there yet" or "you guys don't know what you're talking about."

Friends should not be surprised by this reaction --- let's face it --- we're the first to start celebrating something that was once implied or said in private. What you're experiencing is no other than the classic stages of DENIAL.

HOW DO I COMBAT THIS?
The best solution for this is to put it in perspective to your committed fellow:
1) Does someone who drinks 3-4 nights a week consider themselves an alcoholic? No, but you know they are.
2) Is someone that spents 10-15 hours a day in front of a computer, addicted? Yes, but will they not admit it?

So if you spend 10-15 hours with your girlfriend and sleep with her 3-4 nights a week, are you not about to say I Love You? EXACTLY.

Your friend will soon see that the I Love You Party is definitely needed.

So You Have Received a “Thank You” as a Response

As it turns out your buddies have thrown you a successful I Love You Party in anticipation of you saying those three little words. The party has come, and the party has gone, and it's time to make it happen. You decide to go out to dinner, perhaps a movie, or even a romantic walk on the beach. Your confidence is at an all time high, so finally you say it .... and now you wait anxiously for a response. However, the you receive the dreaded "Thank You."

Many men have found themselves in this situation and ILoveYouParty.com has a few suggestions for your next steps:

1. Keep your head held high and remain confident that it will soon be reciprocated.


2. Wait one month. Say those three little words once again (Look at it from the perspective of your friends... they get to throw you another I Love You Party!


3. Didn't happen again? Move on to another relationship. If you don’t get the desired results after a second go around it’s time for you to reevaluate your relationship and ask yourself if this is honestly the person you want to be committed with. It’s obvious that there is a hesitation on her end. It may be so deep it's not worth trying to figure out. Understand that if you invest more time in this person, more "Thank Yous" may come your way.

And just remember, at the end of the day should you decide to move on to another relationship, at least you got to celebrate several I Love You Parties!

3 Steps in Planning "The Party"

Step 1 - Finding the Friends: Locate as many single friends as you know, but don't invite anyone that is unable to pitch why they're celebrating. Part of the party is being smooth with the ladies.

Step 2 - Finding the Venue: As an I Love You Party planner you must consider the likes and needs of the friends attending. Questions you should ask yourself include:

• In what environment will the group of friends have the greatest possibility of meeting new women?


• Is there a bar or club that everyone gets lucky at?


• What neighboorhood is the venue, and will it be too far for a friend to bring home a new woman?

Step 3 - Invitations and Advertising: Use your favorite social networking platform like Twitter or Facebook to get the word out that it's time to party. Remind your guest to get their game and drinking faces ON.

If you want even more exposure for your I Love You Party, you can always feature it here on ILoveYouParty.com. Comment below to get enrolled!

Have a Buddy In An On/Off Relationship?

We all have friends who do it. They like a girl, then end things quickly, then try to start it up again, only to remember what was annoying about them in the first place. Then, when you call them the next weekend to meet up for an awesome drink special at a bar no one has ever heard of, they are busy, hanging out with that girl again.

On/Off relationships follow one of two possible trajectories, the first of course being the tragic crash and burn. Your buddy is bummed, so you have to take him out, and make sure all attention is on him. But if the relationship begins to be more "On" than "Off" and seems to have a one-way ticket to commitment-town, you may have an I Love You Party coming sooner than you know it!

So we're throwing a party, who pays?

As is the world of meeting women, paying for an I Love You Party remains every man for themselves. The best way to look at it: if you're celebrating one's upcoming I Love You, the party is not for that person, rather it's in honor of them. Don't be convinced otherwise.

I still don't know if my timing is right, now what?

QUESTION: What do you do if you can't decide an I Love You Party is in order at the appropriate time?

ANSWER: The answer is actually quite simple, throw the party anyways! This will ensure that you don't miss a golden opportunity, and honestly, an I Love You Party's impact is less meaning full after-the-fact.

How to Find Out the "I Love You" is Coming

Unlike women, men do not talk about the love situation so openly, so many have asked, how do I know when my friend will say "I Love You" to his girlfriend? We found this to be a very valid question because how can you throw a party if you don't know when to have it?

The easiest way to figure it out, the girlfriend's best friend. This person will know the most about your friend's relationship, because let's face it... girls talk. Since an I Love You Party is a growing trend, you may want to relay to her why you're asking so many questions. You may be surprised that she's a big supporter of The Party and she may do some additional homework to make it happen.

Questions to try:

1. The Most Obvious: Do you know if ____ and _____ have said "I Love You" to each other?


2. A Little Sneaky: How do you think ____ and _____'s relationship is going? Do you think it's serious?


3. A Promoter and Blunt: Have you heard of ILoveYouParty.com?


4. The Reverse Psychology: I don't think their relationship is really serious, right?

If you're a woman reading this post, you may not be as lucky trying to prod the boyfriend's best friend for information. Although, ironically he may know more than the boyfriend himself!